Let me set this up appropriately:
I LOVE getting advice from my friends that are new mommas! I would be at a complete loss without each of you. (So this is no way directed towards any of you!) And in no way do I feel as though I know enough about anything to be deemed an expert despite being in the medical field. However, I do understand some things. Cutting to the chase:
Please don't judge or criticize me for the way I want to deliver my child or even raise my child. Adam and I are first time parents, but WE are the parents. We will make these decisions together as a family which does NOT involve any one else!
Sorry for that, but I've been really bothered lately by all of the unsolicited "advice" or really how people just tell you what to do. Ummm hello I'm an adult and this child is coming out of me...I think I can decide for myself if I want an epidural or not, etc. I may have touched on this topic before, but we have decided to be open minded about the laboring process and really everything bc who knows what things will be like the day of delivery or how our baby will be. I've never experienced true pain--no horrible surgeries or broken bones, etc so I have no idea what my pain tolerance is. I plan to "try" to go all natural but I'm not opposed to an epidural if I can't handle the pain. That being said, Adam and I have educated ourselves appropriately. We attended the natural childbirth course and have read many books (well I read the books!). So I'm really offended when people blatantly disrespect our decision and tell me to get the epidural. Now I may very well end up with one. But honestly it's not your decision or any of your business, we are the parents and we will do what we think is best for our baby. And please don't tell me to get the epidural and then proceed to tell me how big the needle is, etc. Again I am in the medical field, unlike yourself, and have seen many epidurals placed! And that's another thing, if you don't have some sort of medical credentialling (RN, MD, PA, etc) then please don't dish out medical opinions---you are NOT an expert just stop!!! Did you forget that I know what you are saying is total bologna?!
SHEWW! I feel a little better;) That of course is just the surface of the unsolicited comments!
Well, honey, you're going to need to stop going to those 'clubs' I told you about! :) Because I feel very annoyed when I leave there and people WITHOUT kids want to tell you about their opinions. Also, I hope I wasn't one of the peopel you were talking about! I try and keep my mouth shut. Because I've said this a lot - EVERY baby is different and every parent is different. We are all just doing the best we can. :)
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